It’s been 11-months since my wife Dianne passed away. The tears have recently given way to bouts of heart-aching sobs that reflect a deep yearning for the way things ought to be. This longing seems more pronounced as I think of where we were just a year ago. In January 2014 we were already aware that the cancer, that had been held at bay for over two years, would most likely take Dianne’s life; however on February 20th we were given more specific news that left us completely numb, hearing that “There is nothing more we can do”, and that the tumors were not only still present, but were growing rapidly as pancreatic cancer often does. Reading our journal from this time last year brought back a flood of emotions, especially in light of knowing now that we’d have about 1-month left before Dianne would take her last breath.
As I approach the 1-year anniversary of Dianne’s death on March 24th, I pray that I will continue to cherish the memories that we made throughout the years…that I will continue to cultivate hope in the depths of grief….that I will continue to to trust God with a thankful heart.
“The tears have recently given way to bouts of heart-aching sobs that reflect a deep yearning for the way things ought to be.”
In light of this, I’m also sharing words that I penned 1-year ago as Dianne and I sat by the fire in our den. It seems that many of the issues we wrestled with back then are similar in nature to issues I wrestle with today, and serve as a good reminder of where I find my strength when facing hard times.
Thank you for continued love, prayer and support.
Mark
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“Ramblings” of the Heart — Feb 24, 2014
There is so much that Dianne and I could share and/or want to share that it makes it hard to share anything… So, I’m just going to try to share a couple things that are currently on my heart/mind while I sit quietly with a cup of coffee by the fire. *(incidentally, the picture I posted with this journal entry reflects where I am most mornings; sitting in our den where Dianne tries to sleep. The den has a bay window facing our backyard where Di and I enjoy watching birds throughout the day.)
There are several ways to protect yourself from self-pity. When you are occupied with praising and thanking Me, it is impossible to feel sorry for yourself. Also, the closer you live to Me, the more distance there is between you and the pit. Live in the Light of My Presence by fixing your eyes on Me. Then you will be able to run with endurance the race that is set before you, without stumbling or falling.” (Feb 23 – Jesus Calling, Sarah Young)
*taken from CaringBridge, February 24, 2014 http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/dinemitz/journal/view/id/530b4cfcac7ee949319a3807
Our Father is awesome and the provider of all things needed in Him. I pray that during this time of memories and mourning that there will be peace and divine favor in your life. I pray that His wings will embrace, cover you, and carry you when needed. And I pray your days with be filled with the abundance of His presence. God bless your sister in Christ.
I read through your posts with tears of empathy, Mark! Your blog is a beautiful sentiment to honoring your own grief and sharing your life stories of Dianne! Beautiful!
Thank you SO much Marcy, your words and the fact that you took time to read my blog means more than I can express.